Keith* and I also came across inside our 40s that are late switching points within our life. We had been both newly divorced and our kids had kept for university. In my own very first wedding intercourse had been constantly a fight, and my ex accused me personally of getting a libido that is low. But once I started Keith that is dating understood that we wasn’t the “problem. ” We traveled great deal together and had intercourse at every opportunity: on a buddy’s sleep at a social gathering, in restaurant restrooms, even outside in a park!
We got hitched in a little ceremony attended by our children and buddies. Right away, our relationship ended up being constantly really passionate, but even as we entered our late 50s—I’m 56 and Keith is 59—our sex life slowed up. Keith’s impotence problems had been a huge good reason why.
I might never ever state that in front of Keith, and also given that we have reached a spot where we could talk about what is been taking place for the previous couple of years, We nevertheless would not make use of the term “erectile disorder. ” I do believe a guy’s ego is extremely linked with his capability to perform during sex.
To start with, Keith did not desire to acknowledge there is a issue. He couldn’t stay hard, he would use being stressed out or tired as an excuse when we would try to make love and.